Cracking the Code Instructors Alex and Zee (fet: CallMe_Z, email contact@call-me-z.com) Full Slide Deck mentioned Whip masters Master Robert - Fet: Robert9119 Dex - Fet: Dex Youtube: @DexNeptune Glossary Plaiting - The braiding done on the body or thong of a whip/quirt Fall - the soft, flexible tail or tails of a flogger, quirt, whip, etc. Cracker - Crackers or poppers are what actually make contact with your target. Belly (1) - Part of the internal structure of a whip; some whips can have multiple bellies. Belly (2) - The inner curve of a whip Spine - The other curve of the whip Why a Quirt or Similar Toy? Quirts, galley whips, cats, and similar are great examples of of approachable toys to start your learning journey. Quirts are more forgiving with larger strike areas, take a look at the below image for comparison the tiny cracker at the end of a 4 foot Snake whip (72") is dwarfed by the tongue on a dragon tail ...

Asking With Intenton, Key Concepts What to think about when you request things of others. “Is it ok if I give you a hug?” vs. “How do you feel about a hug?”: Imbalance of Power Assumption of Consent Social Pressure Ambiguity Assumption of Comfort Activity 1 No, With Confidence Discussion Points: Reflect on the challenges of saying “no” in a sex positive play party environment. How might the desire to fit in, avoid confrontation, or uphold the atmosphere impact someone’s ability to decline? Consider the importance of creating an environment where saying “no” is honored and respected without judgment. How can this be achieved while maintaining a positive atmosphere? Discuss the idea that saying “no” is a form of enthusiastic consent to one’s own boundaries and desires. How can participants embrace this perspective while respecting others’ choices? Examine the impact of social pressures and assumptions in the context of expressing consent or decline at a play party. Brainstorm alternative ways to approach asking for consent that acknowledge and respect the autonomy and preferences of the other person. Activity: Practice and Role-play Saying “No” with Confidence: Take turns role-playing scenarios where one person proposes a potentially uncomfortable activity (e.g., a specific type of touch, engagement in a particular play activity). The other person practices saying “no” in a clear and confident manner that emphasizes their boundaries without apology. Asking Conscientiously: Practice asking for consent using the insights discussed earlier. Choose scenarios that might involve more intimate interactions and use the alternatives to “Is it okay if I give you a hug?” as a starting point. Negotiating with Queer bodies Names and Pronouns What do you call your parts? Avoid Assumptions Advocate for yourself Zee’s Flowchart of Consent Discourse ...

Instructors Alex and Zee (fet: CallMe_Z, email contact@call-me-z.com) Full Cracking the Code Deck Whip masters Master Robert - Fet: Robert9119 Dex - Fet: Dex Youtube: @DexNeptune Glossary Plaiting - The braiding done on the body or thong of a whip/quirt Fall - the soft, flexible tail or tails of a flogger, quirt, whip, etc. Cracker - Crackers or poppers are what actually make contact with your target. Belly (1) - Part of the internal structure of a whip; some whips can have multiple bellies. Belly (2) - The inner curve of a whip Spine - The other curve of the whip How to Be a Whip Evangelist Whip plays can be extremely nuanced, but that nuance comes with skill. Instead of asking “Where can’t I whip?” ask “Am I skilled enough to strike that area?” ...